For those who don’t know, OkCupid is a dating site. And to be completely honest, 6 years ago I would tell myself and friends that I would never sign up for an account on a online dating site. But here I am now with an account on OkCupid.com.
How did it happen?
Well it all started when I was in college and my friends had an account on Okcupid or PlentyofFish. They were telling me stories of their dates and I just thought they were crazy for taking a risk of meeting a stranger over the internet in person. They were telling me to sign up too, but before I said no, they quickly added “and join the contest.” Of course I asked “What contest?” Now this is the part what drew me in. The girls made an account on a online dating site to do a contest of to see who gets the most free dinners from their dates. And when I think of contests I think of prizes so I asked “What do you win?” And their response “….(yes there was a pause before they can answer me) Free dinner?” And so I was in. I signed up for an account on OkCupid because I thought the name of it was cute. After getting a couple of free dinner from the dates, afterwards it just didn’t feel right to me. I don’t want to go on dates and lead guys on to get free dinner. But honestly it was interesting meeting these guys online because some of them turned out to be really cool and friendly. Unfortunately none of them were my cup of tea, but one.
Majority of the time I reply back to EVERY message I receive on the dating site. But after one reply to this certain guy, he then started chatting with me. Honestly I thought he was pretty funny, I remember one of his questions was “Just wondering, why did you message me back? Is it because of my looks?” I told him how I reply back to everyone who messages me. But I didn’t think this guy was attractive, I thought he was just average. We kept chatting and I felt a friendly vibe from him, like a vibe where I was totally willing to meet this guy in person and I wanted to be friends with him. I swear he tricked me into giving my number to him. I was telling him how I was pulling an all nighter to go into work, and since I was staying up all night he asked if I could call him in the morning to wake him up. You would think he could have used his alarm from his phone which I did asked about but he told me he tends to turn it off and fall back asleep. So since I thought he was pretty funny and cool, we exchanged numbers. Did I ever call him that morning to wake him up? Yes I did.
A couple weeks later after a few chats we decided to meet up and hang out. He was the first guy from the dating site who has made me felt nervous about meeting him. And he was the first guy from the dating site who I have fell for. Not in love, I don’t think, but definitely madly in like. My first date with him was the PERFECT date, my A+ date. It was Summer and we walked to one of his favorite coffee places, Peet’s Coffee & Tea. He bought me iced coffee and we walked around Cambridge then around Harvard campus pretending as if we were students then randomly joining the campus tour. Afterwards we took the subway to Chinatown and he brought me to his favorite restaurant, Gourmet Dumpling House. He did the ordering and one of the things that I liked about him is that I can see how generous he is by serving me the bowl of soup rather me serving myself and he would give me the best pieces in the soup. You would think the night ended from there but this guy seriously know the key to my heart, after dinner we went to get bubble tea. The night still didn’t end from there, we went back to his apartment and watched Old Boy. And no, nothing happened between us at his apartment. It was random of me to ask if I can see his apartment but I tend to be curious of people’s living places. I like to look at things in person rather than visualizing it in my head. Then he gave me a ride home, no goodbye kisses.
So there’s my story of my first experience of having feelings for someone from an online dating site. Unfortunately the guy had no interest in dating me.